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Without any doubt we now live in the most demanding times ever, the need for success, the necessity for survival, the race to wealth and fame, and even the struggle to the top and that is just to mention a few. While all those wants may seem very diverse they have something in common, stress. It is hard to set about achieving any of the desires without going through stress, and what’s worse is you will encounter stress irrespective of whether you achieve your goal or not.
Stress is not the big scare now, but looking at the possibility of a possible burnout due to stressing is where the scare is. Stress is more in the mentality than physical; it is a feeling which acts as a bound just between you and your appetite for satisfaction which will ultimately keep you from resting properly and appreciating how hard you tried to achieve a goal.
One way to reduce stress to the barest minimum in your everyday life will be to give up on all the big dreams and ambitions that plague your mind, but hey, who wants to be a nobody right? So scratch that and sit tight, your ambitions may be high as the clouds but you should fear the idea of failing than being stressed out. From here on you’ll be let in on how you can chase your ambitions without getting stressed out by employing daily goals.
Employing daily goals to alleviate stress
If you think about it, there are an awful lot of things and heights you really need most of them beyond your reach and that’s why they are called dreams, both in the workplace and wherever else. With so much to accomplish you would deal yourself in with stress and frustration if your big plan to achieve them all is to attack them at once. The expert advice you are getting a privilege to read is to employ daily goals, and here are five things to consider in the process:
- Look at the big picture and construct a plan to piece it together by breaking the picture into smaller pixels where every day you can contribute something substantially adequate to your big ambitions. When you don’t have daily goals what you have is a to-do-list, and a to-do-list will dump all the work you have to do right before your eyes and it might seem super motivating but eventually the weight of all that will come crashing down on you, and it will you stress you out then burn you out.
- Your daily goals memo will allow you choose a standard for the volume of work you have to do daily and set you on your way to getting it. If you have to draw up your list of daily goals yourself be sure not to include an unrealistic volume of work to do, as a matter of fact only add chores with a very realistic chance of achievement because you don’t want to drag a day’s work into another day.
- Once you have drawn up a list of daily goals for a certain day do not add more stuff to the list for any reason. If you happen to complete your daily goals in super-fast timing, great, take the rest of the day off and do something relaxing. Doing something relaxing after completing a task is the perfect combo for recuperation of any sort, and if you find yourself thinking “I don’t need this rest when there’s work to do” then think of the saying “you can’t achieve nothing from your burnout situation,” don’t ask who said that.
- Achieving your daily goal quest is best partnered with a little reminder; this lets you know beforehand to prepare to face another task or reminds you when you might be forgetting something. Just ensure to set an adequate reminder that spells out what the topic of the reminder is for.
- A very vital and important thing to remember when planning your daily goal is to keep your sights on the bigger picture, this way you can tweak your working pace, because in the end you don’t want to be stress free but not achieving anything.
A success story for motivation
Employing daily goals is a concept much appreciated by top successful people; an example is Jack Dorsey, CEO Square & Founder of Twitter. At the time when he had to run both companies he put in a strict 8 hours daily during the weekdays at both companies. That might sound very tedious but after 16 hours of work Jack could go anywhere he wanted to spend the remaining 8 hours.
As for you, you might only have a simple task ahead so maybe only 8 hours a day or less can spell a productive day and maybe jack will join in the recreation process after his 16 hour shift. Sign up with my habit tracker http://mehditoozhy.com/focus-success-l/ to help you on track with your new habits.
A tired student with bloodshot eyes. In the times of my teaching almost every day at lectures did I observe at least one such viewer and by the end of the semester their number grew. This is caused by the loads of homework incompatible with any kind of personal schedule. While it seems that students can always push themselves harder, so much stress combined with sleep deprivation is no joke.
The Magic of Free Writing
After getting another email with homework assignment at 5 AM I realized that I had to address the issue. But how can students strike a balance between a healthy dose of mental exercise and adequate rest? I came across the solution by accident. While doing a separate research on a different matter I stumbled upon material on beneficial effects of writing. Digging deeper into the rich volume of literature the realization came that it was as brilliant as it was plain. Writing is really an adequate way out of this situation. The only difference I had to apply was adding a freedom component to it. Not just an assignment on a restrictive topic that the student can hardly relate to. It had to be somewhat releasing.
To begin with, it is a common knowledge that saying the sentence out loud is much more powerful on a personal scale than just thinking it in your head. This is because we assign responsibility to what we speak. The difference is tremendous. This approach can be applied to writing as well.
Psychological studies have revealed that writing about the aspects of life that stress you lead to improvement in wellbeing. Participants who had been tasked to write on varied topics and at different lengths were later tested for overall health. Surprisingly, those who wrote on topics they cared much about had a considerable physical and mental state improvement. The key aspect to it was writing about something meaningful rather than unimportant.
Some might argue that being overly self-conscious about feelings, especially negative ones is not a good individual tendency. I partly agree, and so I should clarify that writing helps against this problem by capturing our looping thoughts. It grounds them and helps us to gain valuable insights about our true selves.
Writing is a meaningful exercise that connects our spirit and body. A pen acts as our extension. It leaves its mark on paper, reminding about the distinction between our past experiences and the present moment. Expressing yourself and your feelings is a redemptive process that enriches your emotional world.
And so for me there was no backing down. Looking at those eye pouches sadly reminding me of my Mastiff Robby (long deceased) I finally decided to act. At the end of one morning class I broke the usual course of history program with a special assignment that was the first of many to come.
Now, I do realize there are only a few things a student would share with a teacher rather than a close friend. This is why I tasked them to write on anything they’d like, without any limitations. I hoped that writing on personal interests and nothing specific would eventually have led them to spilling their beans and telling about what’s meaningful for them. Sincere to a reasonable extent of course, but enough to produce expressive writing in its original meaning, which was my goal.
I only conditioned them to fill one sheet of paper serving as a meter and watch the grammar obviously. I also specified that the task had to be handwritten. It is a lot more personal with a few convenient benefits along the way. For instance, scribing the letters with your hand instead of typing improves your pattern recognition abilities. I introduced it as going a little beyond taking handwritten notes when working on a history essay.
The Inner Growth with Writing
The closest method of treatment that psychologists relate to this activity is Art Therapy. The patient takes their mind off the stressful matter by giving into the exploration of personal creativity. Reawakening the child in each one of us and tapping onto its energy.
Much similar, my task was meant to reignite the primal desire to write, separating it from the weight of forced assignments. The process can only be achieved naturally with the topic the writer is passionate about.
Creative writing makes you more intelligent, and even history can’t do without it. Extensive research has proven that it develops your mental capacities. In the process you improve your abilities to express yourself and your thoughts more effectively. Your communication skills grow, making you more social. But there is more to communication than just socializing. An individual communicates with itself no less than with others. Our inner voice, our inner self becomes more sound and rational. Therefore we become a lot more sensible in the process of our thinking.
When facing a problem at any moment in your life a high IQ helps you to become more efficient when solving it. By a long shot creative writing helps you to quickly and easily process information. The mind learns to observe our state and feelings. It is essential to the development of a young person. The well constructed sharp pen is the sharp mind. A pointy tool that is far more effective when breaking down the wall of the problem, leaving useless patterns behind and embarking on a journey to positive changes.
And so I’ve tried to encourage my students to write every day. When I could divert from my teaching program I always gave them this task. Of course, there were other subjects to cover for the load of work that I’ve loosened on my end. Here I won’t get into the kind of pieces I got from my students. I’ll just say that many of them have got used to writing about what was compelling for them. Some of their topics I can relate to, some not so much. But the spark of engagement that I saw in my students when I did, the one I’ve noticed from the first day I introduced this task had always remained. It really brought joy to me. And so I kept tasking them to fill one blank page with a belief that I made my small contribution for a better future of our nation.
About the Author:
Steven Arndt is a passionate writer, educator and a former History teacher. He tends to reconsider the role of modern education in our society and watches with awe the freedom the youth now has.