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One of my personal heroes is Isaac Asimov, he was a great scientist and an author of more than 500 books. He said: “Self-education is the only education there is.”
So, let’s look at the problems of self-education.
Some people think they are not smart enough to learn by themselves or they have a fear of learning, others think they can not learn, that is expensive or simply they just think they can’t learn.
Today I will share with you a solution to problems that most people are struggling with, that’s lack of focus , attention and stress.
The majority of adults and kids struggle with lack of focus and attention and stress. So what are the problems here?
Lessons from the greatest minds in history are simple and can easily be applied to your life.
1.Follow your curiosity. Follow your curiosity, everything you see around you, is because someone was curious. Albert Einstein one of the greatest minds in history, he said, “I have no special talent, I am only passionately curious” Because curiosity leads to imagination and imagination leads to creativity. So what you can do in your life,is to ask more questions and that starts the curiosity.
In this blog post you’ll learn how to use the power of mind to be motivated in pursuing of your happiness.
There are two questions you can ask yourself when you’re talking about life mission, purpose and happiness.
Have you found your life mission or purpose?
One of the indicator of having a life purpose is:
When you wake up in the morning is your energy up or is it down? When you wake up in the morning do you look forward to the day or do you feel like not doing anything?
Are you proud of yourself? Are you proud of the job you do?
What gives you energy? When you work, do you get energy or do you give energy? If you do an activity and it energizes, you that is a good sign of a good life mission.
The timeless. When Albert Einstein developed his theory he didn’t feel how time was passing and he would you lose track of time.That’s a good indication of what you are doing is your purpose or mission because you are so joyful in what you do.
Childlike joy. When you were kid the activities you did were just pure joy. If you have that same joy in your job as an adult, that’s also a good indication of your life purpose.
The other point I want to bring out is Reverse Planning. Let’s fast forward in time and you are 90 years old. If you look back, did you have the kind of family you wanted. The kind of job? Did you accomplish what you wanted and have the type of friends you wanted? If you can look back and plan your life now, does it fit in line with your purpose? These are pretty good indicators of what your purpose or mission would be in life. So reverse planning a good technique.
It is also important to give the reasoning behind what you do. The reason behind this was at times your life mission and the purpose can seem difficult but the reason behind so important and so significant that it makes you feel great joy. So the reason in what you do can also be your life purpose. I connect happiness with purpose. These are connected to each other so if you have life purpose, you have happiness and if you have happiness you have life purpose. I’m going to show you how they are connected.
The second question that you could ask yourself is…
Could you honestly say you are happy? Are you happy in what you do?
What it means to be happy differs from person to person.
Brainstorm! Sit down in a quiet room with your friends or alone and write down ideas. You will have a kind of general idea of what it is that makes you happy.
Inner State. The condition of your inner self inside you – is it joyful, is it sad? Do you feel anger? When you feel deep inside of you, joy is connected to your happiness. Check with our inner self and check your state of mind. Is there joy, sadness, or anger.
Power of your Mind. This is a tool that you have and it’s available in your mind and you can use it to bring happiness to you. I want to give a simple example because you know when we talk about happiness it’s also how we look at things, the perspective of things. Let’s say it’s a rainy day and you feel sad. It’s cloudy, it’s rainy and if you look at this from this point of view plants and animals they need water and it brings them life. The rain you see that’s coming down gives life to animals, planets and to earth so that in a sense is joyful…it’s beautiful. So you can change your review on it and see the positive sides of it and that can bring you joy. Sometimes materialistic things seems to bring joy, seems to bring happiness but if you can train yourself to harness the power of your mind you can view things in a very positive way and that can bring calmness and happiness to you.
Goal Setting. Because goal setting gives direction and that direction brings comfort and security because you know where you are going. That is a good feeling and it is connected to happiness.
Time. According to an American Time survey, 33 percent of our time is spent sleeping and 33 percent is at work. After sleeping, the workplace is the most important part of your life. Choose work wisely. Great minds like Edison, Einstein, Picasso all left great joy and love in their work. It brought them great happiness and joy.
Small Steps. When one sets a goal, there are many steps to take. If you can break down these steps into smaller steps, this is a goal. By taking as many steps you can get to your goal and that itself is a comfort because sometimes the goal itself can be you know far away and it makes you feel and it makes yourself incapable of reaching it. By following this model it will give you comfort that you need on your way to achieving your goal and that’s connected to happiness. Breaking down big steps to small steps will bring happiness to you also on your way to reaching your goal.
Be Grateful. You know being grateful meaning making a thank you list, a grateful list and putting the items like family, friends, education and health on the list is important. We human don’t look at the things that we have. So when you sit down and say okay you know I have these things and I am grateful for it, one of the benefits is that it brings you comfort and joy. It warms you up when on your way to achieve your goals. So a thank you list is a very good way of bringing happiness to you in the moment when you face difficulty.
Perspective. Let’s take a perspective on the things around us. This is you, you live on earth and the earth in the solar system and that solar system is in a galaxy milky way and that galaxy is in a universe…huge universe…vast universe. So we are really insignificant and small when you are looking at this planet compared to the sun. I know there are estimated to be around 100-400 billion stars in one galaxy and around 50 billion planets in this galaxy. And we are just one of the 2 hundred billion galaxies that’s out there, so if you look at it and you’re in little tiny dot that’s called earth, beautiful earth. Our purpose is try to understand what’s out there and to me we are small but we are significant when we look at the whole picture trying to make sense of it all. So that’s to me life purpose.
How were my eating habits last year?
When one asks questions one begins to search for answers. So how were your eating habits last year. Additional questions to ask yourself are:
Are you consuming fresh vegetables? Ask yourself what you are putting in your body? Is it nutritious? So once one has this mindset you begin to ask questions. Once you have this diagram in your mind it helps you to have a fit and healthy body.
Are you exercising regularly? Do you walk to school or work? To you take the stairs or the escalator?
Are you sleeping well? When we sleep our bodies repair themselves so sleep is needed to be fit. Sleep is important. We need sleep to be efficient during the day or the day is wasted.
Are you drinking enough water? Eighty-five percent of our brain consists of water. Water is important to fight against mood swings and to keep us health to think clearly. But don’t drink just when you are thirsty. Drink all the time. It’s free and available everywhere. Once you drink enough water your brain cells start communicating better.
Did you feel physically fit doing your daily work? How do you feel during the day? If one is fit, you will begin to ask questions and feel better.
How did you treat people around you?
If one treats others well, it is good karma. If one puts good out into the world, they will get good back. Your main responsibility is to do good things, decent things and you will get it back sooner or later. You are not responsible for the reaction of other people so focus on yourself. Next, I ask you:
How is your relationship with your spouse/girlfriend? So ask yourself, how did I treat my spouse? Is it a good relationship?
Has your relationship with your family been healthy? Family is the backbone of life. Ask yourself did I treat them? What do I want my relationship to be this next year? What can I do to be better this year? Who is your support group when you are in crisis. One needs this to succeed. This is vital to a good foundation.
How are your relationships with friends? Your friends are a part of your support system. It’s important to evaluate the relationships. Were they helpful to you? Do you share interests? I dedicated a chapter of my book, Keys to Success at School and Beyond, to friends and competition. They help shape your success. Ask yourself how they affect you? How do you affect them? A good friend helps keep your life in harmony.
Did you get to know people from all different background? This is diversity. Part of intelligence building includes knowing people from diverse backgrounds. It helps develop your personal growth. One can learn a lot from others with different backgrounds. It is enriching. I have been living in many different countries all of my life and it has helped me tremendously. It teaches you a different perspective and gives you a more open mind. They had great influence on me as a person.
Ask yourself, did I buy things I need not need?
Pay attention to need. Did I buy things I didn’t need? Albert Einstein said if you can’t say it simply that means you’ll never understand it. One needs to live simply and they will gain peace. One does not need useless things in their life. One just needs to live on a day-to-day basis. When you buy things that is based on a want or junk, this induces stress because you are buying something you don’t need. So keep this mind: for peace embrace things you use on a daily basis and for stress embrace junk and useless things. Once you have this diagram in mind when you go shopping, use it to make a decision that will be helpful to you. It important you not waste resources.
Did you achieve your desired income level? Once you ask this question you begin to think “How’s my path?” Is this the correct path? What can I do to be more successful? We can can compare our income to last year’s and see how’s it going to be and what can I do about it?
Have you built the habit of spending less than you earn? If you exceed your budget keep this in mind so you don’t have financial stress.
Has your career progressed? Are you going to do to make more progress in your career this year? Comparing yourself to last year can help you to see what can you do better this year. What do you need to do? Don’t compare yourself to others. Because once you begin to compare yourself with other people, they have different path in life.
What was my life’s purpose last year?
Life purpose is important. Ask yourself what did I do last year in my life and what am I going to do this year? Include your job and family. Is your career something that energizes you? You know is it something that energies you? Is it something that makes you feel happy?
Have you found your life’s mission?
This actually bringing meaning to what you do and the activity that you do. Does it excited you? You have a purpose on this planet and each one of us is unique. You need to search within you to find this mission. I developed a chapter about this in my book here. I write about the activities that make you feel energized. There are some exercises in it that can be helpful to you.
Can you honestly say you are happy?
Are you happy with what you do? This goes back to the mission and doing the things that energize you, that make you feel good.. Everyone has a purpose inside himself or herself and it’s just a matter of finding it. These questions enable one to look for answers. Look for this treasure within you that will give you meaning, will give you purpose and will make you happy. After this seminar or this workshop you will go back and do some thinking in your private time and you will begin to find your answers.
Have you built the necessary habits for spiritual growth?
Depending on your faith, your spiritual growth takes different paths. Do you have the habits growing this, working on it? What will bring well being and meaning to your life. It could be the connection to the whole universe that you celebrate. Maybe from your faith? This work has to be done by only you.
These are the questions that will help one reflect on past year. Now, I want to mention my book. It is called Keys to Success at School and Beyond. It is about reaching your goals father and in an easier way. In addition to this book, I have one-one-one counseling sessions available. If you have questions contact me anytime on the Facebook, Mehdi Toozhy public figure. Feel free to get in touch if you need counseling. I am available and I can help you reach your goals faster and easier.
“The robbed person that smiles back, steals something from the robber”— William Shakespeare
I walked into a coffee shop earlier this week and was greeted by a sweet, friendly and smiling barista as she took my order. I smiled back, and that smile remained plastered on my face even as I walked back to wait for my order. A gentleman sitting across from me saw it and nodded a smile back at me. I felt good.
There’s something about smiling that always feels good. Maybe it’s the feeling of being accepted or the joy of spreading your happiness and receiving it back. Nonetheless, smiling is a powerful lift for both the person giving it and the person receiving it. In fact, statistics indicates that more than 70% of all smiles are returned with a smile.
Feel-good neurotransmitters such as dopamine, endorphins and the mood-enhancer serotonin are probably behind the joy we feel when we smile. Some studies report that a small amount of some or all of these neuro-substances are released with every smile.
The Benefits of Smiling
- Smiling Relieves Stress
The Psychological Journal in 2012 posted a report on a study that was performed in the University of Kansas. Out Of the 170 subjects who took part in the study, it was found that those with the biggest smiles recovered quickest after being put through various stressing situations without their knowledge. Subjects with neutral expression didn’t experience these benefits.
Even without considering such studies, we all know that when we smile, we feel happier, and our mood is elevated. This subconsciously makes the brain drift away from distressing thoughts and encounters. Smiling is thus an effective stress reliever.
- Smiling Makes One More Amiable
A genuine radiant smile increases the trust that the recipient of the smile feels in the giver of the smile. A big smile (not the crazy, creepy smiles) makes you easy to trust. People tend to relate better with happiness. Smiling makes one look happy. Thus, a smile will make you easy to approach and relate with.
In 2004, Penn State University showed that the success of most businesses in the service industry is partially pegged on the positive impact generated by employees smiling at their customers. Generally, customers have a better experience when they are served with a smile.
- Smiling Increases Productivity
Individual as well as business success comes when you smile more. This is because as we’ve established, a smile will make you easier to trust and approach. Economic researchers have additionally found that happiness generally drives success both at the workplace and at a personal level. Negativity and sadness are energy-draining. Positivity, happiness and smiling are on the other hand terrific motivators and energizers. Grinning or rather smiling, therefore, could be the key to success in your career, life and other relationships.
Smiling When It’s Hardest to Smile
For some folks, smiling is spontaneous. For some people, however, life and certain diverse circumstances make it hard for them to enjoy the gift of smiling. I have a friend who once told me to always smile the hardest when it is hardest to smile. Tough encounters will occur at one time or another. Nevertheless, they will come and go as they have always done since the beginning of time. Therefore, do not let misfortunes wear out your smile; put it on wherever you go no matter the situation.
- Remember Smiling is Free
When you are in a dark place, always recall that you have several tools that you can use. A smile, as we have already seen, has many untold benefits. The best thing about smiling is that it won’t cost you a dime. This is a precious gift that comes at zero cost. Simply pay attention to the smile and forget the numerous other weights that crush your spirits. Enjoy it and appreciate it in every way.
- Conjure Up a Smile
Thousands of happy things have happened to us in our life. In your lowest moment when you fell that it’s hard to smile, you can reminisce about the good things to help you smile. Recall that funny comedy movie you watched with friends? This could be what makes you smile even at your worst experiences. Reflect on the good and happy blessing that have touched your existence and smile. Don’t forget what made you smile, when it was hard to smile and always use it to work up a smile whenever you need one.
“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone. Close the door on the past. You don’t try to forget the mistakes, but you don’t dwell on it. You don’t let it have any of your energy, or any of your time, or any of your space.” — Johnny Cash
Things may not always go the way you’d want them to. Setbacks are a significant occurrence in everyone’s life. Nevertheless, one must always find a means to prevail when things go wrong.
First things first
Nobody is immune to setbacks. You must acknowledge and accept the problems that come your way. With every setback comes a transformation. Once you go through tough times, you emerge a different person. The person who appears on the other side entirely depends on your attitude towards your situation.
You can’t put your head in the sand when the going gets tough. You must embrace every trial with bravery and determination to survive and possibly flourish at the end of it all. Instead of wasting precious time looking at where to point fingers, it is better to look for means of forging a new way forward. Therefore, before anything else accept the circumstances you face with confidence and determination
A few Secrets about setbacks
Not achieving what you desire can be utterly demoralizing at times. Behavioral scientists have found that setbacks in life are a form of psychological injury whose severity varies from one person to another. Failure inherently distorts our perception in several ways that predispose us to recurrent failure.
A setback may cloud the perception of your potential and capabilities. It makes you feel less able to accomplish tasks. It makes our goals appear far away and out of reach. One may therefore erroneously believe that whether he or she succeeds or fails, it’s out of their control.
Whether you believe you can or can’t, in both instances you are right
With repetitive failure and setbacks, people tend to feel hopeless and helpless. To overcome this, it is important to find ways of regaining control of your goals and tasks. This can be achieved by realizing that there’s more that can be done beyond the things you fail in. You must realize that even when you feel incapable of taking control, there’s always the possibility of you regaining control. We are now going to outline the best way to beat the defeatism that comes with every setback so that you can once again assert control over your life.
Step One: Disengage
You’ve just hit a major setback, and it feels like your entire world has come to a grinding halt. The emotions flare up, and despair is raining down on you from every inch of your sky. It’s very easy to get upset about failure. This makes may people hold onto the failure without wanting to let go.
When setbacks come knocking on your door, step back, reflect then send them away
Stop doing that which is not working for you. Reflect on the failure you face and what could be causing it. Do not attempt to correct the situation immediately unless you understand it fully. Try to formulate methodologies to move on and possibly circumvent your setback after you’ve understood what happened.
Step Two: Shift your focus
If you stare at a closed door for too long, you might miss the hundred open doors around you
It is possible for the mind to focus too much on what you didn’t achieve such that you fail to recognize the numerous other opportunities you could explore. Do not saddle yourself with worry and guilt when you fail. Instead of clogging your mind with unhealthy visions of your failure, look for new prospects that hold the potential for incredible success.
It helps to focus your efforts towards more positive side of things especially in the face of failure. Situations could be worse and that there’s always something good around the corner waiting to happen. Also, try to find ways that you can benefit from your setbacks.
Step Three: Give it more try
Failure isn’t final. You have to get up each time life deals you a knockout blow. You, of course, should give yourself time for the wounds to heal. However, at the most opportune time, come back harder than before to conquer your failure.
This may call for you to leave your comfort zone and look your setback straight in the face. You have to rise from being the victim of your situations to being the victor. This can only happen if you keep trying and trying without ever giving up.
Thomas Edison’s teachers branded him too stupid to ever learn anything, and on his road to inventing the light bulb, he made 10000 unsuccessful attempts. All these setbacks didn’t put this great man down which is the reason we are talking about him today.
“No one has ever become poor by giving” – Anne Frank, The Diary of Anne Frank: 1952
Humans are defined from animals to some extent due to their societal behavior and a tendency for showing compassion. Helping other people has definitely never caused any adverse effects for the society. It has been proven in various researches conducted over time that people showing generosity are usually more inclined to lead a happier life. Other than the aesthetic benefits of a good deed, there are a number of scientific phenomena claiming the advantages a person has when he or she chooses to opt for serving the community.
Help Yourself by Helping People:
There are a number of benefits which you can gain by helping others:
- Increased happiness
- Increasing the happiness of other people
- Increase the subconscious satisfaction level
- Feel a better involvement with the society and other people
- Feel a sense of being generous
- Add more meaning to life
- Distract yourself from hectic schedules
You do not need to wage campaigns and go on a revolution or have any similar agendas necessarily for acting in the favor of humanity. A simple call to an old friend or a meal for the whole family will also do. By helping others around you, you will also help yourself. You will feel happier and fulfilled.
Science behind helping others:
There are different researches conducted in the field of altruism. People that they care of their partners or parents are less exposed to heart diseases and chest pains, which can signal a heart attack. There are other studies which show that generous people are often free of stress.
When a person is stressed they have a stress response and hormones similar to cortisol are released which ascend the breathing rate. If stress levels are maintained for longer periods then people might face degradation in their immune system which makes them easier targets for harmful agents to attack. Often people who are stressed out during their daily schedules face early ageing symptoms. These factors have often been indicated by various researches.
Evidence proves through MRI scans that people have certain regions of their brain responsible for generating the feeling of sympathy and compassion. The feeling of compassion is not due to any obligations or sense of duty. Chemicals such as oxytocin which is commonly found during motherhood along with other chemicals present in the brain are often found for the feeling of love towards another person.
Various great scientists including Charles Darwin have stated the importance of kindness and a sense of helpfulness for the survival of species. The genetics and environment as well have a good deal of impact on a person’s capability to think in a non-selfish manner. The oxytocin levels found in the brain of children varied in a research which was conducted on orphans who were adopted by families. The care provided during childhood indicates good cause for the development of neurons also known as mirror neurons which will make you a more emphatic person in future.
Oxytocin which has often been related with sympathetic responses is said to trigger lower levels of blood pressure and lesser stress in people. The reward mechanism of the body, which is actuated through a sense of happy feelings due to the release of dopamine, endorphins etc. is also been indicated to increase in a person’s body when he or she chooses to help others.
How to help others?
Unfortunately, helping others doesn’t come as easy as you would think. Tapping into the gold chest of a better life is not that hard at all and just requires a few smiles for a healthy life. So now you know that you do not have to move mountains to help others. What can you do in your busy schedule to contribute? A few useful options are given below:
- Share your knowledge with some kind of tutoring program
- Make a donation to a charity
- Providing services to immigrants
- Community-based events
- Helping at nearby hospital or clinic facility
- Volunteering in a charity
- Donate something you don’t use.
- Buy food for a homeless person
- Create a care package
We all can agree that helping others isn’t always so easy. It can cost you your time (and we all know how precious time is), money and even some other resources. However, you should keep these useful tips in mind because I can guarantee you that by helping other human being you will in fact help yourself and prepare your road to success. You can find more tips at:http://mehditoozhy.com/
I’m honored and privileged to receive an opportunity to write for The Huffington Post. I have been always curious about the world around me and that led me to take big risks by traveling alone through Europe and starting school at grade 8th in Denmark.
In that process there are lessons of failure, success and wisdoms that can benefit anybody who seeks success in life. My aim will be to share my insight and perspective to readers in hope of making life easier and more interesting.
Because sharing is living.