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Helping Your Child Gain A Better Self Image

As parents, we all want what’s best for our children, this includes a positive self-image. Success in life as well as school can be affected by low self-esteem. A child’s identity and personal image can greatly affect their social well-being.

We must help our children learn to identify and overcome any self-esteem issues that may arise, so they can be successful in school and life. Below are some steps to help children with these issues.

  1. Every Child Is Their Own Individual

All children have a desire to “fit in” and start to compare themselves to other children. They will begin to look at themselves in comparison to others. They will notice any differences, whether they be physical ability, appearance, intelligence or social status. Because of this a child may become insecure or develop low self-esteem.

This desire to be like, and accepted by others can cause them great stress, sadness and a feeling of inadequacy when they a rejected from a particular group. They become consumed with trying to fit in, losing track of, or not developing who they really are. Help your child learn they are a unique individual, be proud of who or what they are, and never compare them to their peers or siblings.

  1. Always Be Confident

You can control your confidence thus controlling your self-esteem, to be a confident person you must act confident. If you take control of your confidence, and self-esteem you will eventually reach the self-image you desire.

Instruct your children to make a list of how they see themselves on a piece of paper, and you as the parent make your own list of what qualities you see in them. Then sit together and compare the lists, discuss what their self-image is and what qualities you see in them that they do not. With enough positive reinforcement, your listed positives will start to sink in.

Below are some simple tips to work on improving their self-esteem, and self-image.

  • Find a sport you excel at, and master it.
  • Find a charity you believe in and volunteer your time.
  • Find a hobby you enjoy and embrace it.
  • Work to improve your strongest skills.
  1. Help Them Look At Themselves More Positively

Children notice the differences between them, and other children. Whether it’s the fact that they wear glasses, are not as good at a particular sport, or many other reasons. It’s up to us as parents to help them see the things they do excel at, and understand that they are great because of them.

  1. Less Access to Media and Internet

Facts are facts, and today we live in a digital age, media seems to be everywhere you turn. Most written for adults by adults, with children having no control over its content, but quick to get blamed when they emulate what they see or hear.

It is our job as parents to monitor and limit our children access to the media, and to ensure that when they do have access they are viewing relevant, educational, or appropriate material.

Media can have an impact on a child’s self-image, here are a few tips that might help.

  • Limit your child’s access to all media (television, internet, magazines).
  • Know what they are viewing when they do have access
  • Help them to understand the things they do see, that way they can interrupt it properly
  • Encourage them to take in media that is positive.

We all know raising a child is not easy, there are many influences we have little or no control over. We play an important part in our children’s lives, the biggest thing we as parents can do is listen, guide, and above all be involved in every aspect of our children’s lives. This in itself, plus the tips listed above will help our children have a more positive self-image.

4 Easy Steps to Help Your Children Deal with Negative Experience

Negative experiences more often than not result from sadness, pain, danger, or disappointment, so it shouldn’t be surprising that our brains tend to focus more on the negative rather than the positive. Therefore whether it’s at work, school, home, or anywhere else, making it hard to see the positive in a bad or difficult situation. Unfortunately, negative experiences are going to happen, but it is possible to teach children as well as ourselves to find the positive in a negative experience and alter how they are reacted to. Balance between the two is essential.

To help your children we have some scenarios as well as tips to assist you when facing the many difficult situations, and then to find the positive.

Nowadays at school there is an increased amount of bullying, and with the internet being so prevalent now, it’s gotten worse. Children can be bullied for numerous reasons, bad at sports, or a particular subject in school, right down to simply looking different. To be honest it really doesn’t take much for a bully to react. Even though bullying is common throughout childhood, as parents you have the ability to teach your children how to correctly respond to a bully.

Throughout childhood and even into adult life you will encounter people who say negative or hateful things, what people say or think of you cannot be changed. Don’t let them make you feel like you are less than what you are (just because they say it doesn’t make it true), eventually you will learn to ignore it, and avoid that type of person altogether.

  1. Control Your Reaction: you will not always be in control of the situation, but you can be in control of yourself. For instance if someone is raising their voice or snapping at you (justified or not), remain in control, stay calm and don’t lash out in response. Sometimes it takes a negative instead of a positive to take in the meaning.
  2. Learn to Use What You Have: No one is good at everything, everybody has strengths as well as weaknesses. The Key is playing to your strengths, while teaching yourself new ways of thinking to overcome your weak points. You’ll be amazed what you can accomplish.
  3. Learn from Your Mistakes: Sometimes there will be a deadline for homework or a project, or you may do poorly on a test or assignment. Remain calm and in control, don’t let it discourage you. Instead think about what you can do better next time to achieve a positive outcome, whether it’s more study time or better time management, put it into practice and you will succeed.
  4. Alter Your Thinking: Kids are going to get in trouble and make mistakes, it’s all part of growing up. At times parents, teachers, or even friends will get upset with you. Instead of getting angry because someone is upset with you, step back and think about what they are telling you, and what you can do to make the situation better. This will help you avoid similar issues in the future.

We all know growing up isn’t always easy, it’s full of ups and downs. By incorporating these simple tips and methods of thinking, you will greatly increase the number of ups. You will have much more success in childhood and beyond when you can learn from your mistakes and find the positive in a negative experience.

Mehdi Toozhy`s Online radio interview with Suzanne Strisower

Welcome back to Living Life on Purpose on the Living Blog Talk Radio network, I’m your host Suzanne Strisower and this is the last interview today in this series. My next guest has written another fascinating book, he is an Oxford graduate and he has also worked with renowned coauthors on research papers and published in the journal Sound and Vibration, he’s placed in the top 5% of the students while studying at the Danish Technical University and achieved 100% in many of his challenging technical subjects, and he wrote a book called “Key to Success at School and Beyond” and I want to welcome Medhi Toozhy to the show today.
Medhi, did I pronounce your name properly?

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How to train your kids to be successfully independent

One of our most important goals as a parents is to raise children who will become independent and self-reliant people in the future. That is not easy thing to do on your own.

Most parents experience a time when they are torn between wanting their children to remain a little babies forever but also wishing for the time when they will be independent enough to do some things on their own.

The important thing to remember here is that we need to train our kids to be successfully independent. Because they will not learn that by themselves.

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One of the most frustrating parenting problem is when your kids are ignoring you, no matter what you do or say to them. It often seems that kids just don’t listen to or even hear what their parents are saying.

You have to tell them five times to do anything, even simplest things such as picking up their toys, writing their homework, or take off their shoes when they come inside. This probably ends up by you yelling at them, but that doesn’t help a bit. At the end, you just feel powerless, frustrated and not at all a kind of parent you wanted to be. If you’re wondering how to change that, read this.

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Find out your natural learning styles

Find your unique way to learn. Many of us think that we just don’t have what it takes to be good at school or at the university.

But, you can’t be more wrong. With just few easy steps, you can find out what your learning style is and become your best possible self. All you have to do is to learn how to appreciate your unique way of learning. After all, we are all unique in nature, so it’s not strange that we also have different learning styles.

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